softlilstrawbby asked:
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I love. I have loved. I will love.
I don’t want to go through life afraid that I’m not really loved. Even if it ment I could go through life with you.
The more time passes between one relationship and the next, the easier it becomes to convince ourselves it’s true. That being unloved is the rule, and that being loved once was the exception. But here’s the truth about when you’ll find love again: You’ll find love once you’re finally fulfilled without it. Love will come back when you’re not desperate for it. When you’ve stopped looking at each new encounter as a possible escape route or getaway car. Love will arrive when you are ready to give away as much as you receive. Because sometimes in life, you have to become the person you’ve been waiting for. You have to trust yourself, respect yourself, build yourself up enough to stand on your own two feet, regardless of who’s standing beside you. And so your job is not to find love – not to seek it out or aim to fall into it. Your job is to shine on, as blazingly and as fully as you’re capable of. Your job is to become the greatest, most receptive version of yourself. But most importantly, you just need to have a little faith. Faith that the best is yet to come for you. Faith that the most beautiful days of your life have not yet happened. Faith that you’re already enough just as you are. Because the parts of you someone will someday adore already shine straight from the center of your being, every place that you go with your whole heart. And in the meantime, it’s okay to take your time. It’s okay to prioritize healing. It’s okay to be lonely and exhausted and unsure of when love is ever going to find its way back to your life. Right now you may think that you’re never going to fall in love again. But there was a time when you thought you’d never fall out of it, either. You were wrong then and you can be wrong again. Except this time, being wrong is going to be unexpectedly and unequivocally beautiful.
There are few things in life we have control over.. The food we eat, the clothes we wear, the texts we send, and most importantly the way we let others treat us. When we’re not treated fairly, we tend to forget that. We say people walk all over us, but what we’re really saying is that the value of our self worth belongs in someone else’s hands. And the truth is, the way others treat us is just a reflection of the way we value ourselves. Because if we were treated any worse than the way we treat ourselves, we wouldn’t take it. But we tend to ignore the signs that are right in front of us. And I want you to know that ignoring red flags isn’t “loving hard.” Ignoring red flags isn’t going “all in.” Ignoring red flags is not a pattern of love It’s a pattern of suffering. But there’s hope. Maybe if we treated ourselves a little kinder, a little softer, we could re-set the tolerance of what we’ve accepted from others. Instead of fearing loneliness we can learn to embrace it, instead of holding onto cold hearts, we can start by warming up our own. And instead of letting people walk all over you, be brave enough to let them walk away.
The only thing more exhausting than loving someone who doesn’t love you back, is hoping they’ll eventually come around. So when someone isn’t ready for us, we try harder. We continue to show up in hopes that they’ll want us back. If someone isn’t ready for you, for the glory of you and the uniqueness of you. Then they simply are just not ready. But do not let that shrink you. Don’t let it make you become less of a person.
No..
Because the truth is, when people say they’re into you, but are just not ready for you, what they’re really saying is that they are not ready for themselves. Which also means you will never get the best of them. And you, you deserve everything of the best.. That’s why whatever it is you’re seeking from other people, try to find a way to give it to yourself. Because love shouldn’t be a war you have to fight to keep hold of. And at the times where you feel like you have nothing left to give, and your heart is running on empty, I want you to remember this. You are too full of everything that makes you whole to ever be loved in halves ♡.



